PDA, or on being told to write about blue tile
Around 2016, someone mentioned to me, for the first time, the term Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) —a term which I rejected...
No More Regulation
Photo by Andrew Davis I am heretofore removing the word ‘regulation’ and its subsidiaries, ‘down-regulation,’ ‘up-regulation,’...
How to Find a Neurodiversity-Affirming Couples Therapist
A neurodiversity- affirming couples/relationship counselor: Recognizes relational issues may not pertain to neurotype difference, and may...
It's Not a Window & It's About More than Tolerance.
There’s a construct in trauma psychology called The Window of Tolerance. Maybe you heard of it years ago; maybe it’s brand new to you....
Eating Disorders and Trans Autistic People
When I was a teenager I developed an eating disorder. I didn't know. There was so much I didn't know, so much that no one knew. It was...
Taking Care in a Pandemic
Gumby and their friend (I should name them) are having a rough time with the coronavirus. All their activities are cancelled. Things keep...
Supporting Transgender Autistic Youth and Adults
Order here or order through your local bookstore. I am starting to get emails from counselors, parents and trans autistic folks and I'm...
What We Can Do to Support Transgender Autistic People: Remembering Kayden Clarke
Kayden Clarke was a 24-year-old trans man who identified as having Asperger’s syndrome (a form of autism) and PTSD, among other...
What Bill Bowen Taught Me
I learned to touch hearts. Literally. The first weekend of my first training, we were touching each other’s hearts — with humility, love,...